How to win an ex back? A good question. Have you just broken and are feeling a little directionless in your attempts to get your girlfriend to return? Well, The first thing you have to do is recognize that she is a human being and because of this she will follow certain patterns of behavior. This you can use to your advantage.

First, you need to understand that human beings basically act in their own self-interest. To know how to win an ex back you must grasp this point. Now of course many humans help others by giving to charity and by working as volunteers etc. But I mean they think of themselves first at a deep subconscious level.

Economic studies have revealed that people more or less act in their own self-interest all the time. They will do all they can to ensure their well-being before all others including their close family. So, when your ex breaks up with you, agree with the decision and let them chalk up a point. Then don't talk to them for a month.

Second, you must know that humans resist control. A mentally stable fully functioning adult will always resent efforts to be controlled. To this end, don't pressure your ex into anything. If she wants to see other people then let her.

Getting angry about your ex seeing others will mean they will resist you even more. Let them do what they want, when they want and they will think they are controlling the situation.

Are you seeing now how to win an ex back?

Lastly, you have to realize that we humans are greedy creatures. We always want the things that are out of our reach, that others have. After a month of no contact your ex will really want to know what is happening with you. She will want to know why you haven't called.

Because of the smoke screen of indifference that you created she will start to want you.

Now during this month of no contact you need to be planning your overall strategy. Nobody sorted out how to win an ex back without some self-improvement. Work on yourself and the advantage will be yours when you meet your ex again.